Last week a Facebook friend, whom I've never met, posted a long rant/message about her extreme dislike for our medical system because it hasn't helped her, as far as concrete solutions, other than pushing pills (oh doctors are so good at that aren't they?!), for her long list of ailments. While I was reading it I thought to myself how fortunate I was to have my health as well as pretty good medical care and attention when I've needed it. I get that everyone's experience is different.
I've had my fair share of physical issues including a four month stint where I couldn't stand or walk for more than 10 seconds because of a bulging disk and some spurs on my lower vertebrae. Not fun. Took a long time to get better, thanks to my willingness to try anything to relieve the pain, heal and get on with life. NOT because of the medical system.
Anywho! Many people commented on the said post offering suggestions and advice cuz we just love doing that, don't we? Soooooo.....I decided I would chime in with a solution to try because I whole-heartedly believe that there's a solution for every problem. I offered to send something to them to try on my dime. I believe that anything's worth a try when pain is getting in the way of living. Am I right?!
NOTHING! No response. No private message. Nothing. The comment thread had become somewhat of a chat as people were commenting and this person was responding to the various comments. Now I can't say for sure that they saw my comment offering help, but would find it hard to believe it wasn't seen. Believe me, I don't take it personally. It did, however, reinforce what I already know...
NOT EVERYONE WANTS HELP EVEN WHEN THEY SAY THEY DO AND COMPLAIN THEY AREN'T GETTING ANY!
I debated whether or not to comment again, private message them or do nothing. My undying need to help and reach out again was yelling at me and then I remembered that we can't make people do anything. All we can do is offer a suggestion and if they're open, yay! If not, don't take it personally and move on. Why? For one, it has nothing to do with you and has everything to do with their internal belief system. Second, changing it is up to them, not you.
For so many people, even though they hate where they are, they're comfortable there. They know what to expect. Being stuck is like a cozy blanket. They know how it feels, how to move around in it AND they've become an authority on their "issue" and we all like to think we're an authority on something!
Think of a time when someone suggested something to you and you weren't keen on it. What was your response? My suggestion? Thank the person for reaching out to help and tell them you'll consider it. It'll make you both feel better. At the very least it'll open the door to being open-minded.
Ever find yourself feeling too comfortable to a point where it doesn't serve you?
Is it time to throw off that comfy blanket?
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